I AM a woman....

Many people always send me letters beginning, Dear Mr. Molare. I chuckle, get over myself and find out what the letter is about. My gender in the writing world has never been a big issue to me....in the past.

However, after hearing Michelle Obama on Monday night, I am claiming and proclaiming my womanhood, feminity, uterus/uteri, Fallopianness from mountain to valley, hilltop to ditch: I AM WOMAN!!!!!!!

Wow, that woman came with it or like they say in church, she showed up and showed out. Now that the kind of "stand by your man" stuff I can and will work with--positivity, mutual support, and the love of family just shined through.

Ok, enough about the Family Obama of which I am a fan, let's apply this to our writing world. Too many "toxic love" books out there folks. Authors we must take responsibility and realized that continuing to peddle women seeking free loving from misognystic--but fine as hell--dudes is destructive. Destructive to a woman's psyche, self-esteem and ultimately our existance.

Now how about we "flip the script" and write about a Family Obama and their married folks loving and dealing with real life versus the hit it and run off/absentee daddy? Wouldn't that be sexy as hell to find a married couple that's still hot for each other as when they first hooked up, despite the hoolihoos trying to holler and offer up the free pootitang? Wouldn't that be so cool for the wife to not only not allow herself to be in a position of "being the last to know" but to have her game (meaning her modus operandi) so tight hubby can't see past his buffet. Can't speak for you, but I'm getting horny talking about it.

Anyway, I must say again, Michelle Obama, you inspire me. Barack, I sure hope you understand and realize what you DO have. Authors, let's give this a shot, k?

Peace out.

Haters...

I've mentioned before about haters, author jealousy, the entire spectrum of keeping another person down simply because you lack what they have. Then I ran across this piece which has been attributed to Dr. Maya Angelou (haven't confirmed) on another board and had to post it, because it is very, very fitting in my mind. So to all you haters out there....Enjoy!

'HATERS', BY MAYA ANGELOU (Deep!)


A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall. They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever good enough! When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters...

That' s why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and your dreams, because some folk can't handle seeing you blessed...

It's dangerous to be like somebody else...

If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you what He gave them! Right? You never know what people have gone through to get what they have...

The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don't know my story...

If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!

We've all got some haters among us! Some people envy you because you can:

1. Have a relationship with God

2. Light up a room when you walk in

3. Start your own business

4. Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn't about the right thing)

5. Raise your children without both parents being in the home

Haters can't stand to see you happy .
Haters will never want to see you succeed .
Haters never want you to get the victory .
Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side.

How do you handle your undercover haters? You can handle these haters by:

1.Knowing who you are & who your true friends are *(VERY IMPORTANT!!)

2.Having a purpose to your life. Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled. A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.

3. By remembering what you have is by divine perogative and not human manipulation. Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live...when its your time to leave this earth, you want to be able to say, 'I've lived my life and fulfilled my dreams,... Now I'm ready to go HOME! '

When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, 'Don't look at me...Look at Who is in charge of ME'

Watch out for Haters...... ......... .....BUT most of all don't become a HATER!

'A woman's heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him first to find her.' Maya Angelou

'People fear what they don't understand, I understand what I don't fear..'--lukrativ
' Tact is for those not witty enough to use sarcasm.'

Loving Me!

I recently read a list entitled: Reasons why Black Men won't date Black Women. It was NOT nice...and then we wonder why our relationships aren't getting stronger. We keep feeding into this type of BS. You know, I've NEVER seen a why other races don't date their own races list...except for African Americans. This self-destruction doesn't make sense folks!

So, this new list was posted that I thought was definitely wonderful.... Hope you enjoy it like I did...OK, I've vented.

25 THINGS BROTHERS SHOULD BE SAYING TO SISTERS

1) I love you

2) I just called to hear your voice.

3) Is there anything I can do to make things better?

4) You look nice today.

5) Did you lose some weight?

6) You complete me.

7) I missed you.

8) No matter what happens, we will get through this together.

9) Our kids just don't know how lucky they are to have you as a mother.10) Enjoy your night out with the girls.

11) I'm sorry.

12) You did a good job.

13) I need you.

14) If that's what you really want to do, I'm behind you all the way.

15) I'm proud of you.

16) Let's go out tonight.

17) God must have spent a little more time on you.

18) Whenever you're frustrated, depressed, confused or feeling that thewhole world is closing in on you, remember that I'm here for you.

19) I'll take the kids with me; you need a break.

20) You were right; I was wrong.

21) I trust you.

22) Did you make an appointment to get a mammogram and Pap smear?

23) I don't care what anyone says, I know i couldn't have done itwithout you.

24) Thank you for being the woman that you are.

25) If they turned the clocks back, I'd marry you all over again.

Making a woman feel like a woman and reassuring her that she's yourwoman are the most powerful ingredients in an incandescent loverelationship.Remember Brothers, there is extraordinary power in the spoken word.So if you have a woman in your life who has changed your life, then startto speak up!